Have you ever been having a normal conversation with someone and suddenly your emotions are activated way out of proportion to the actual conversation? The other person might be totally unaware of the impact of what they have just said and are majorly confused with your response. Whatever was said just triggered your emotions. Emotional triggers tell you about areas of your life that you are uncomfortable with. They are a reminder of a past experience or a deep hurt through which a current situation is filtered. This activates your body to go into red alert (remembering the past) and respond at a subconscious level to a perceived threatening circumstance. Whilst the current situation may not be exactly as your mind sees it, what is real are the feelings and emotions that you immediately experience. What unnerved you may not be directly apparent. Therefore, it is important to take time to understand what is going on in your system, take time to attend to your feelings and manage your emotions rather than being controlled by them. This will allow you to identify something in your life that you are not happy with .
- The first step is to acknowledge how you are feeling and to name the emotion.
- Next step is to understand what it was in the conversation or situation that brought up this emotion.
- Then translate this situation into a deeper message of what you think is being said to ‘you’.
- The next crucial step (using the same example) is to tell yourself ‘I am important’, repeatedly and add to this with supporting sentences beginning with ‘I am’……………. in order to change your inner beliefs.